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Archived
10/07/2001
Online
Love
I
know. I know. The last thing you need is another discussion about
the pros and cons of online love and dating. So, let me say briefly
what I think of this subject..
I
have met some of my best friends online; several who will
be special to me for the rest of my life, including people in
other countries that I probably would not have met otherwise.
I also inadvertently met the love of my life online. Is it luck?
I personally don't think so.
People
exude their character and personality online (as well as in person).
And I believe that weirdos always give signs of their F$#@!ck-upedness
(derived from my special dictionary); but we often ignore those
signs. We all have very strong instincts and built-in warning
systems and if we listen to them, we can avoid some bad online
encounters. But, this is easier to say than do because, after
all, none of us are perfect and we sometimes make bad choices;
ignoring our basic instincts and inner voices. Meeting people
online can be a pleasant and even wonderful experience if we listen
to our inner voice more often and use common sense. Assumption:
I am referring to the people who have common sense.
My
personal
experiences with meeting people online have been wonderful and
rewarding. I had (and still have) a rule that I would never meet
someone in person that I thought was questionable in any way.
If someone made me say "Whaaat the hell was that about?!"
then I knew that I would never meet that person. Often and without
insults or rudeness, I politely showed that I was not interested.
(That is another subject BUT I want to briefly say that I truly
believe showing disinterest in someone online does not always
require insults or rudeness. Hey, there is always a button called
CANCEL or EXIT.) Besides, there may still be a possibility of
gaining a new friend, even if not a love interest, because
the differences between all of us can be what unites us.
Hey,
let's face it!: There is no medium out there that is immune to
psychos. But if the right standards are set for meeting someone
online and the use of a lot of common sense, meeting and making
friends online can be wonderful.
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